Paired With Random Men? Here is How to Stay Confident and Play Your Game

Hey golf ladies! 💕 Let us talk about something that happens to almost every woman golfer at some point: getting paired up with random men on the course.

This used to give me so much anxiety - and to be real with you - still sometimes does until a few holes in.

Whether you are a single or playing with one friend, the course will often group you with strangers to keep things moving. And yes, those strangers are frequently men.

I know this situation can feel intimidating. Trust me, I have been there. But here is the thing: you belong on that course just as much as anyone else. So let us break down how to handle this like the confident golfer you are! ⛳

Remember Your Game Is Your Own

First things first: you are not competing against them. Unless you are in an actual tournament, you are playing your own game. Do not let their distance off the tee or their swing speed make you feel like you need to prove something. Play from the tees that work for YOUR game and focus on YOUR scorecard.

Set the Tone Early

A friendly introduction goes a long way. Shake hands, share your name, and show that you are ready to have a good round. Most men are perfectly lovely playing partners who are just there to enjoy the game like you are. A confident smile and relaxed energy will set a positive vibe for the next four hours.

Do Not Apologize for Your Game

This is so important, ladies. STOP SAYING SORRY! 🙅‍♀️

Did you chunk a chip? It happens to everyone. Did you take an extra shot to get out of a bunker? So what. You do not owe anyone an apology for being a work in progress. We all are. Own your shots, good and bad, and keep moving forward.

Keep Up the Pace

One of the best ways to earn respect on the course is to be ready when it is your turn. Watch your ball, know where it landed, and be prepared to hit. Good pace of play makes everyone happy and shows you know what you are doing out there.

My personal tip if you are new to the game and you are having a bad hole - just pick up your ball to keep up with the pace of play. No one wants to get a talking to by the ranger - and here's the thing with rangers - they usually talk to the first cart only, which means now the guys who are ahead are expected to tell you move it along. That's awkward all around. Most of us aren't in the LPGA, so just pick up, maybe drop on the green for some putting practice and take a double par on the hole. Then shake it off and reset for your next tee shot.

Handle Unsolicited Advice Like a Pro

Sometimes a playing partner will offer tips you did not ask for. If this happens, you have options. You can smile and say thank you while mentally ignoring it. Or you can politely say you are working on something specific with your coach. Either way, do not let it throw you off your mental game.

Trust Your Abilities

You have practiced. You have prepared. You know your clubs and your tendencies. Trust that! Confidence is not about being the best player in the group. It is about knowing you have every right to be there and believing in your ability to hit the next shot. 💪

Find the Fun

Some of my best rounds have been with random pairings. You might meet amazing people, learn about a new course to try, or discover a future golf buddy. Go in with an open mind and a positive attitude. Golf is supposed to be enjoyable, after all! 🌸

So next time you see that the course has grouped you with some unfamiliar faces, take a deep breath and remember: you are a golfer. You belong here. Now go out there and play YOUR game!

See you on the fairways! 💖

Beth